A wedding is one of the most significant decisions in a woman's and a man’s lives. It is a time full of joy, dreams, and visions of the future. However, there’s no definitive answer to whether it’s better to marry after a short courtship—which some might consider risky—or after a decade together. Life shows that even relationships of many years can face challenges after marriage, making it the beginning of the end rather than a new chapter.

To help you approach this step confidently and clearly, here are 10 essential questions to ask yourself before getting married. These will help ensure that you feel certain about your choice and can wholeheartedly say,

"This is the person I want to spend my life with!"

1. Who am I?

To live a full and happy life, you need to know yourself. Ask yourself: Who am I? What do I like? What kind of partner do I want by my side? What are my boundaries? Understanding yourself is key to knowing what you want in a relationship. This self-awareness can take time to develop, as many of us grow up shaped by family beliefs, habits, and societal expectations.

If your relationship began in your early youth—before your personality fully formed—it might be even harder to navigate the challenges that arise as both of you grow and change. Remember, change is natural and normal.

2. What does my intuition say?

Sometimes your mind says one thing, but your heart says another. Your heart is the voice of your intuition. If you feel a sense of resistance or unease about this

marriage, even if it’s hard to articulate why, trust your intuition—it often knows the truth.

3. Am I authentic in this relationship?

Do you feel like your true self in this relationship? Or do you feel pressured to change, criticized, or controlled? Reflect on whether you feel real and free with your partner. Being authentic is essential for a healthy and fulfilling relationship.

4. Why am I with this person?

Examine your motivations. Do you truly love your partner? Or is your relationship driven by habit, convenience, or fear of being alone?

5. Do I accept my partner’s dark side?

Everyone has a dark side. Unless it is destructive, violent, or degrading, consider whether you can accept and acknowledge both your own and your partner’s imperfections. Acceptance can make it easier to resolve conflicts and transform challenges into growth.

6. Are we growing together?

Does this relationship inspire growth, positivity, and happiness? Are you both becoming better people together? If only one of you is growing while the other remains stagnant, it may lead to a lack of common ground over time.

7. Does my partner support my achievements and aspirations?

Reflect on whether your partner celebrates your successes and supports your goals, whether in your career, education, or personal interests. Or does your partner exhibit jealousy or discouragement, particularly regarding your social or professional advancement?

8. Am I happy in this relationship?

This is a simple yet profound question. Take a moment to honestly reflect: Am I truly happy? Listen to your heart.

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9. Can we agree on practical matters?

Practical discussions are crucial before marriage. These might include decisions about where to live, family planning (including the number and upbringing of children), and financial responsibilities. Understanding and respecting each other’s views on these topics can prevent future conflicts.

10. How will we divide the responsibilities of organizing the wedding?

Planning a wedding is the first test of teamwork for an engaged couple. Discuss and divide responsibilities to ensure that no one feels overwhelmed. Instead, make the process enjoyable and collaborative, setting a positive tone for your future together.

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Author: Ieva Simanoviča