Is there only one "The Right One”? This is an age-old and debatable question as which came first: the chicken or the egg. There is no single answer. For some, there may be several fateful and true connections throughout their life, while for others, meeting their one true soulmate may not be a task at all. In some people's lives, there truly is a fateful person with whom they can build a deep, intimate relationship.

We rarely fall in love with only one person in our lifetime. Once, this may have been more common—there was a sense of fate and a couple of tasks that the soul came into the world to fulfill. Modern life, however, is different. We often experience multiple relationships within one lifetime. It’s neither good nor bad; it’s simply how life unfolds, much like the acceleration we experience in other aspects of life. Thus, at different stages of life, we may encounter someone who feels real and significant. Perhaps your partner was a key figure in one of those stages, as only through him could you rise, like a phoenix from the ashes—awakening and being reborn.

Many of us long for to meet that fateful person with whom we can build a truly close and harmonious relationship. How can you tell if you’ve met the right one?

Signs He Is the One

• You feel safe with him
  A sense of safety is foundational for a woman in the presence of a man, and it’s a key indicator of a healthy relationship. Safety is not only physical but also emotional—it includes respect, support, and an overall positive emotional atmosphere. You feel free to express your feelings, talk about your emotions, and trust that you’ll be heard. If you experience criticism or condemnation instead, the relationship may not be a safe one.

A conscious woman seeks a man who is mature and ready to face his own inner world. She will not invest her time in someone who doesn’t keep promises, is self-centered, lacks responsibility, or fails to engage in meaningful communication. Such a woman would rather enjoy life alone than waste energy on a man who cannot acknowledge or manage his emotions.

• You feel like you’ve found a home
  With the right person, it feels as though you’ve found a home. You can be your true, authentic self without playing a role. Ask yourself: do you truly feel that you can be yourself with this person, loved and accepted as you are, without any pressure to change? It’s important to distinguish this from relationships driven by unresolved trauma—such as anxious attachment—where the intense attraction might actually signal a re-experience of familiar, toxic patterns. Strong infatuation, where your thoughts constantly revolve around him, could be a sign of being drawn to relive old wounds rather than encountering the "right" person.

• He devotes time and effort to you
  The right man won’t hesitate or play mind games. He knows what he wants and demonstrates it through his actions. You won’t have to guess whether he’s committed or not—he genuinely cares for you. However, this attention must be balanced; it should be healthy, not obsessive or idolizing. No matter how in love you both are, life must go on—work, hobbies, family, and other responsibilities remain important.

• You grow within the relationship
  A healthy relationship should help you grow, not hold you back. If you feel you are becoming the best version of yourself with your partner, and he also strives for personal growth, the relationship is on the right track. However, if you find yourself feeling weaker or less confident than before, it’s worth pausing to reflect. Why are you feeling this way? It’s never too late to start over, but staying in a situation where you don’t feel happy, loved, or valued is a path to nowhere.

• You don't feel the need for ultimatums
  A healthy relationship isn’t based on conditions like "if you do this for me, then I’ll do this for you." With the right person, there’s no need to prove or demand anything. That doesn’t mean there’s no responsibility; in fact, both partners naturally feel a responsibility to care for and support each other. It’s a mature, mutual exchange, free of manipulation, blackmail, or threats. True love and care happen organically, without the need for power plays.

Do relationships with The One just flow easily and harmoniously?

No, they don’t. Of course, situations vary. It all depends on how much personal work you’ve done before meeting your partner. While everyone dreams of a harmonious, easy, and flowing relationship, a secure and deep relationship does something more: in a close, intimate connection, you feel safe embodying your true self as fully as possible. And with that authenticity comes not only joy, but also pain and challenges. However, in the presence of your loved one, you feel safe expressing it all. Close relationships provide a healing environment, drawing out accumulated pain and allowing it to transform in a safe space.

This process is similar to the bond between children and their mothers. Why do children tend to misbehave most around their mothers? Not because their mothers don’t know how to raise them, but because in their mother’s presence, the child feels the safest and lets out pent-up emotions. As adults, we’ve learned to lock away our emotions due to societal expectations. But we can learn from children: instead of storing our emotions, we should release them. While this may be uncomfortable for others, comfort doesn't necessarily lead to happiness.

If you’re on a journey of self-discovery and growth, you might at some point be misled by the illusion that you need to be fully healed and "ready" before meeting your true partner. But we are never fully ready. Life itself is a process, and relationships are part of that ongoing journey. Spiritually and emotionally close relationships will have difficult moments, but what sets them apart from superficial connections is that you face these difficulties together and work through them. By resolving conflicts, you learn how to be together in those challenging times, and this process often strengthens the bond and brings you closer.

A secure relationship is like a mother’s lap for your inner child. One of the greatest gifts on the path of healing is a safe relationship. But we must allow ourselves to experience it—if we protect ourselves too much or keep love at arm’s length, love can knock on the door, but it won’t be able to enter and transform us. Love can only enter a space where it is welcomed. Love is healing. Love is everything. It’s all we need and the one thing that is meant to endure over time.

Author: Ieva Simanoviča