Building strong long-term relationships is a goal most women set for themselves. It is a natural desire as it sets a fundament for building a family.

The desire to love and be loved is natural because it leads to the goal of most sentient beings - the continuation of the family. Of course, in the case of human relationships, there is a much deeper matter involving mutual respect and the expression of caring and providing moral and physical satisfaction. For this reason, many women ask themselves how to establish and develop a harmonious relationship with a loved one.

Men you can't build relationships with

Prioritizing is significant before starting to philosophize and immerse yourself in the relationship. It is about prioritizing what men are worth giving your attention to and who do not deserve it. Such a practical approach is essential in the first stages of the relationship because the most valuable resource in life is time, and spending it on something or someone without perspective is not worth it.

Of course, each case is individual, you can even say that every relationship has a future, but it is not always bright and productive. Therefore, let's distinguish a few types of men with whom the relationships will fail in 90% of cases.

First, married. This option may seem contentious to many because a married man in love can be enchanted by a woman and make any promises to her. However, the statistics are quite unambiguous – most likely, a married man will remain with his existing family. And even if he leaves, he is likely to take side steps in the future as well.

Second, successful bachelors. It's about a cluster of successful, wealthy men who take everything from life. Such a man, due to their financial position and attractiveness, receives quite a lot of attention from the opposite sex. How to build a relationship with these men if they do not prefer one single woman in front of the attention of many beauties? Such men are not interested in forming a family, having children, staying together until the end and are not ready for devotion to their beloved.

How to build a relationship with a man

Now that the initial priorities have been set and it is clear with which men the relationship does not have prospects, one can move on to the next part. On the question of how to build a relationship with a man, it is important to remember two simple truths.

Self-esteem. A woman who knows how to love and respect herself will become loved by others. In addition, it is crucial not to overdo it with self-love and a sense of one's worth – it is not necessary to move to the other ditch and fall into narcissism (this topic is relevant for both men and women, although there is more talk about it in society concerning men). Most men value the sense of personal worth in women. It is also important that a woman respects and appreciates the male world.

A man in a woman always appreciates that she has her own goals, a sparkle in her eyes, that she is confident in herself, knows how to draw boundaries and how to enjoy life. A woman puts herself in a losing position when she puts serving a man and being a housewife as the goal of her life. In such a woman, most often there is no spark and interest in life. It is necessary to cultivate vitality, joy of life, purposefulness and versatility. This is not a one-day task, but it is possible using a variety of tools – therapy, training, self-development programs, etc.

Positioning. At the beginning of a relationship and the stage of dating, the woman's impression of herself is essential. When positioning yourself, it is not worthwhile to behave frivolously, as this indicates that a woman is not ready for a serious relationship. I would say that a balance is important here, and you don't have to be a serious accountant either.

It's more about the feeling a woman leaves of herself in a man. It would be good if he understood that she knew her price and felt that he would feel a taste of life next to her. At the same time, it is vital that a woman makes a man feel like a man and leaves him room to take the initiative in male roles.

How to develop relationships and how to stand next to a man

Indeed, a successful start to a relationship lays the essential foundations for its further development. However, this does not mean that you have to relax (and it must be said that there is no moment in relationship life when you can completely relax because it is a living organism that needs attention and care) because it is easy to damage everything by making mistakes while already in a relationship. As they say, a relationship breaks down when we start taking it for granted and forget to appreciate a little bit of every day we have together.

• Happy wife – happy life.Don't be shy, and don’t forget to share your joy, showing you are happy in your relationship with your man. You chose him! Show joy and gratitude in everyday life and highlight your kindness and warmth. If it is difficult and there is internal dissatisfaction, it is necessary to look into it and answer to yourself what is causing it and what can help cope with it. A life with a person who is always dissatisfied, capricious and depressed greatly affects the other person, and sooner or later, this can turn out to be very unpleasant.
• Show that you need your man.Previously, we talked about the fact that men value purposefulness and self-confidence in women. We also mentioned that it is important to be able to balance these qualities in yourself and not take responsibility for everything. Because it's not for nothing that there are two people in a relationship. Let the man feel his masculinity, his strength. Share your emotions and fears, and let him solve some issues. This is how he will always feel needed and able to provide protection.
• Do not rush.Strong long-term relationships and rush – these are incompatible things. Take it step by step. Peace and balance are essential helpers, while haste often ends with the words, “I can't build a during relationship.”

• Forget sex by schedule. Sexual relationships are one of the most important elements in every couple's life. Making love opens up many positive emotions, brings partners closer together and makes them more open to each other. However, if in a relationship, sex begins to be dosed or a list of days is introduced (which quite often happens), then the concepts of “positive emotions” and “bring together” disappear, and resentments, misunderstandings and dissatisfaction appear in their place.
• Praise each other.Even the strongest and most self-sufficient man needs praise and recognition. It is necessary to praise his qualities and actions. Don't forget to thank and praise him for his daily help. And especially when he does something meaningful for you. Let him feel that you admire him, and do not miss the opportunity to praise the man when being among friends.
• Discard the ideals.Many women make the serious mistake of inventing a fearless knight and projecting fictional ideals on their man. As a result, these ideals collapse, your man does not fit them (because he is a living man, not an ideal fairy tale prince), and a woman experiences disappointment and begins to be disappointed with everything a man does. For this not to happen, one must learn to accept the other as he is – real. You need to see reality, not imaginary ideals. Of course, it is possible to make adjustments, but you need to be able to do it without haste and imposition.

• Ask yourself – will you be satisfied if your loved one starts to take side steps? The most likely answer is no. Therefore, keeping trust in your chosen man is one of the first essential tasks. This is not just about physical fraud. Don't betray your man – you shouldn't discuss his failures and mistakes with others. Stay true to him in all aspects of life, and you will surely get back for it.

Important – all the points mentioned above allow you to maintain a relationship and act on the male psyche in such a way that he remains confident in himself and does not lose interest in his woman. Simple, isn't it? But most couples have difficulties in virtually all of these points. Pay attention to how it is in your life and see what prevents you from realizing it if it happens. Sometimes praise, requests for help in everyday male roles, and trust are even enough to make the two of you happy with each other (it should be added that the point about sexual intercourse in a couple is more than important).

Relationships often become monotonous and uniform over time, especially when they are long-term. The couple spends more and more time at home, doing their usual things and spending a lot of time at work. Seamlessly, everyday life becomes routine, and the couple loses interest in each other, starting to swim along the stream. What should you do if you experience this? It is important to constantly dilute this routine, adding a walk to the cinema, the theatre, concert, restaurant or nature walks to your daily routine. Explore together and do something new. This will allow you to add new colours to your life. Do not forget about romance and flirting, even if your relationship has been going on for many years!

This, of course, is only a small part of what it is important to observe when building a relationship with a man. However, all the mentioned recommendations are effective and help refresh the relationship or create new ones. It is crucial to understand that the recommendations described are based on male psychology, but the way men react to them may differ. It must be able to appreciate and notice the woman herself – what affects her man directly because people are different. Build relationships with love and joy!

Author: relationship mentor Zane Ozoliņa