Love is the essence of human existence. By understanding how to love unconditionally and feeling it with all your senses, you can cultivate transformative and deep relationships.

Become the light instead of searching for it, and you'll see the light reflected in everyone you shine on. We are on the Earth to bring love and to be loved.

Love Yourself

The most important relationship in our lives is with ourselves. But do you have a relationship with yourself? How present are you? Do you really pay attention to yourself?

You can't expect someone else to fill your empty spaces if you haven't paid attention to them and been aware of what to put in them. Expectations from others are a path to disappointment.

Self-love is the path of self-growth.

Why do painful relationships develop? Because people who do not know what it means to love themselves create them. People who don't love themselves. Loving yourself means paying close attention to yourself, listening and hearing, following your heart and respecting it. Respect yourself! If we love and therefore respect ourselves, we do not allow a person who is not worthy of it to come into our lives.

How to Love Yourself More

Self-love is the foundation of all love. It gives an understanding of love, and sets the standard for how you allow others to treat you. When you love yourself, you understand your worth, and you can give and receive love. How to love yourself?

• Practice Self-Compassion: Treat yourself with the kindness and compassion that you offer to a dear friend. Acknowledge your imperfections and mistakes without judgment. Mistakes are for us to learn. It is like a breeding ground for becoming the best version of yourself. If you know how to be empathetic towards yourself, you will also know how to be empathetic towards your loved one. because you will understand – he/she is not a ready, perfect product, but a human being with unique path.

• Set Healthy Boundaries: Boundaries are about ensuring that your needs and values are respected. This empowers you to engage in relationships from a place of strength rather than neediness, and it is a life-changing skill.
• Engage in Self-Care: Prioritize activities that nurture your body, mind, and spirit. Whether it’s regular exercise, meditation, or spending time with loved ones, self-care is essential for maintaining your emotional and physical health. By taking care of yourself, you’re able to show up more fully in your relationships.

Paying Attention

When you fall in love, you want to know as much as possible about your loved one, including feeling them physically close as much as possible – smelling the scent of their hair, caressing their skin, touching them, being with them.

Later – the illusion arises that you know your beloved. And assume you know everything about him or her. But it is impossible to know your loved one completely! Why? Because we change and develop throughout our lives. Look at yourself: if you are in self-growth, you change and you are constantly interesting to yourself. You always discover new sides in yourself. Isn’t that miraculous? In the same way, you see your loved one – like a precious stone, which, when you turn it, you see new reflections and sparkles...

The Toughest Guy in the Room is the Loving Guy

The manliest thing to achieve is to surrender to love. It requires courage. When we love, we are true and vulnerable. All masks have fallen.

A relationship is a space in which to feel safe and secure.

How do you become that loving, strong person?

• Embrace Acceptance: Accepting others with all their imperfections, is key to loving unconditionally. This doesn’t mean you overlook harmful behaviors, but rather that you recognize the inherent worth of the person despite their shortcomings. We are all on our way.
• Let Go of Expectations: Deep, real love requires letting go of the need for others to meet your expectations. When you love someone without expecting them to fulfill your desires or change who they are, you create a space for authentic connection and growth.

Tip – love for who they are, not trying to change them. If you cannot love him or her as he/her is already – he/her is not your person.

How to Be More Loving and Love More Deeply

Becoming a more loving person enhances all your relationships, including the one you have with yourself.

• Cultivate Empathy: By putting yourself in others’ shoes, you can respond to their needs with compassion and kindness, making your interactions more loving and supportive.
• Practice Conscious Resolving of Disagreements: Love often requires patience, especially in challenging situations. Navigate conflicts and misunderstandings with grace, without reacting impulsively or harshly.
• Engage in Physical Touch: Warm touches and holding hands are for lifelong relationships, not just for the first few years of dating. Touch activates and maintains the connection.

• Be a Source of Support: Overcoming difficult situations together makes the bond of the couple stronger.
• Be Authentic: Be true to yourself in your relationships, expressing your thoughts, feelings, and desires openly and honestly. Authenticity fosters trust and allows for a deeper, more genuine connection. And what's the point if you have to pretend?
• Grow Together: Support each other’s personal growth, and embrace change as an opportunity to strengthen your bond.

Going Deeper with Tantra

Do you want to go deeper and discover what is possible in relationships, spiritual connection and sexuality? Then it's time for tantra. It is about creating a sacred space where love, intimacy, and spiritual growth can flourish.

Tantra in relationships refers to a spiritual and holistic approach to intimacy that emphasizes deep connection, presence, and mutual growth. Rooted in ancient Indian spiritual practices, tantra views sexual energy as a powerful force that can be harnessed not only for physical pleasure but also for personal and spiritual transformation. Yes, tantra is not only about sex, although such are the first associations.

Here are some key aspects of tantra in relationships:

• Deep Connection: Tantra cultivates emotional and spiritual bonds. It emphasizes being fully present with each other, which helps deepen the connection and intimacy.
• Mindful Intimacy: Tantra involves being mindful during intimate moments. This can include prolonged eye contact, synchronized breathing, and other practices that help couples connect on a deeper level.
• Energy Awareness: Sexual energy is a vital life force. Sex becomes more and more energetically wider, deeper, and more powerful on levels that cannot be imagined until experienced.
• Healing and Growth: Tantra can also be a path for healing emotional wounds and overcoming relationship challenges, partners can work through issues together and grow both individually and as a couple.
• Conscious Loving: Tantra promotes the idea of conscious loving, where partners are fully aware of their actions, intentions, and the impact they have on each other. This awareness can lead to a more intentional and fulfilling relationship.

The Key is Simplicity

The deeper we go, the more discoveries that can amaze us with new emotions and feelings. But one of the greatest benefits and knowledge goes deep – to learn anew that everything lies in simplicity. In truth. Just love, respect, and be grateful. Enjoy simple evenings with your loved ones, baking pancakes for the children, arranging backyard flowers in a vase… Do it with gratitude that you have a home, your safe island, and dear people by your side. Your home is filled with love.

Sometimes we conclude that a happy life is a simple, authentic life filled with love.

Author: Ieva Simanoviča