Weddings are one of the most beautiful rituals of celebrating love that humankind has ever introduced. Both when organizing a wedding and on the wedding day, the desire for perfection and for everything to go smoothly makes you focus on things that are not worth your attention. Remind yourself of a simple but wise truth - we give our energy to the things we give our attention to.

Wedding is not the goal

Yes, the wedding has to be planned and organized. Think about the big choices, such as the date of the wedding, the venue of the wedding ceremony, the venue of the wedding reception, the wedding concept, and the nuances - the colour of the napkins, the content of the invitation, and the layout of the seats. The more carefully planned the wedding, the calmer and more comfortable you will feel on your wedding day.

However, a wedding is not an event to look at as a goal that you must achieve according to a particular plan. Weddings are like a living organisms that can surprise and sometimes act outside the box - someone misses, something is forgotten despite the most careful planning, something breaks - nuances not foreseen in the wedding scenario can be unexpected, but it is important to allow it to flow.

Yes, we follow a wedding scenario, but if the wedding scenario is complemented by an unexpected moment, we let it be. Without getting stuck and allowing for a natural flow, knowing that life is not a scenario where there cannot be unplanned steps, it will be much easier to accept the flaws, relax on the wedding day, and enjoy it.

Everything can be solved.

A wedding is not a performance for guests

So many people want to get involved in the wedding planning process. Fantastic if they offer their help. But not so good with pushing advice or trying to enforce their desires. And no matter how close these people are to you, their desires are just their desires. And everyone has the opportunity to realize their wishes at their wedding. What matters in your wedding is only your desires, ideas, and sense of how you want to get married.

There is nothing rational about a wedding

It's a story about feelings, emotions. When organizing a wedding, you have to think about how the guests will feel, take care of the well-being and comfort of the guests, what kind of meal you will serve, and what entertainment and performances you will organize. However, the wedding itself is not a performance. It is not a show. It is a celebration of love.

The details are not essential. It’s not worth worrying about whether guests will enjoy your favourite musician’s performance, whether they will be happy with your choice of a non-alcoholic wedding offering fantastic non-alcoholic cocktails, or whether you will choose to get married at sunrise or replace the wedding dinner with a catering hippie bus. A wedding is a magical ritual, full of symbolism and meaning. Confession of love.

Author: Ieva Krastina

Foto: THE UNBRIDLED, ALEXANDRA COHEN